The One

Life can be so full.

Full of both beauty and awfulness in the world at large, full of minutia in our work-a-day routines, full of the emotions and road-bumps and triumphs that comprise any human life. This fullness affects us. How can it not? I’ve been struggling with time-management lately–prioritizing the Day Job, the Emergent Writing Career, my important relationships, my interactions with a difficult world, and my attempts to make things better.

One lesson emerges over and over again, smacking me upside the noggin with its simple obviousness: One thing at a time. The masses of work, of problems to be solved, even of facets of life to be loved are overwhelming so I have to remember to step back and break things into smaller, more manageable Heres and Nows. I can’t do it all. I can’t know where any one step will take me in the future. Instead, I am in this moment, doing this one thing. And then the next one thing, and the next.

So, lovely readers–how do you deal with the stresses of everyday life, of balancing careers and hobbies and volunteering and all the other millions of things that you do?



  1. I keep forgetting to do this myself. I try to use the “many hats” visualization technique to keep my focus where it needs to be. When I’m being a writer, I need to put on my writer’s hat. When I’m being a mom or a wife, I need to be only that. It’s challenging to give the truly important things in our life the time and respect they deserve when there are so many things competing for our attention. But some situations and roles are just not suited for multitasking.

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  2. Being an IT person, I’ve learned a lot about organization and prioritization from our IT project management methods. While I don’t have an Agile board for my life (though that is a dream of mine!), I try to take a Kanban approach to chores and things (

    I look at all of the things I need to do as my “backlog”, and I know my “velocity” or how much I can reasonably get done on a given day. Then it’s just a matter of listing the tasks, taking the top one off the stack, and doing it till it’s done. I mean, it’s not that much different than a to-do list except that you’re very honest with yourself about how much you can tackle. If it’s a weekday or a low-spoons day, I don’t give myself much to do. It’s better, for me, to be realistic than to beat myself up for low productivity!

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    1. I LOVE that approach…so practical! <3 I have had to learn through the years to figure out my own productivity cycles–throughout the day/week, even the year. Knowing what I'm working with is a huge advantage. Project management at work really can offer lessons for life-management…took me a while to figure that out, but it's been useful. Ty for the awesome comment! ^_^


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